Different kinds of relationships create the social fabric that keeps humans linked and socially functional. Relationships allow people to share all manner of things including ideas, emotions, and even feelings. Regardless of the type of intimate relations that people share, there are common problems that often emerge in virtually all relationships. It is common for couples or partners in any close relationship to run into hard times. Nearly all relationships are marked by ups and downs, and the trick to keep the relations going lies in understanding the potential pitfalls in relations and how to overcome them.
For relationships to last, partners in any relationship have to learn how to tackle emerging problems, hang in there, and learn to solve any challenges that threaten severe links among partners. You could learn a few of these tricks through counseling sessions, seminars, mass media programs, practical experiences, or many other sources. Regardless of your choice, here are a few insights on the possible conflict areas that threaten relations and how you could deal with them to save your relationships.
Trust is essential for all types of relationships, and any unresolved issues among partners may hinder other members from trusting a partner in a relationship. Trust issues often arise when partners in a relation fail to open up and reveal all there is to a relation. Hidden information and secrecy often deal a significant blow to any relation by raising mistrust. If you find that you cannot fully trust your partner, here are a few tips on how you could improve trust. Firstly, it is prudent to be consistent and live up to what you say you will do to avoid mistrust. Failed promises or inconsistent behavior diminish the ability of your partner to find you as a reliable party. Also, you should avoid outright lies or lie by omission because if revealed these are direct pointers to an untrustworthy individual.
Most relationship problems stem from misunderstandings, and most of these misunderstandings are often a result of a communication breakdown. You cannot communicate to your partner while you are chatting on the phone, flipping through channels on television, or playing a video game. Like any other tasks, communication requires the active engagement of the mind and concentration for it to be effective. Poor or total lack of communication is a common problem in most relationships, but you can overcome this issue by making a few observances.
Firstly, avoid all forms of distraction when in active communication sessions. If you live or work together, then set aside all distractions such as electronic gadgetry or even stop all activities while engaging in communication. If you have to handle issues that are emotional, put the kids to bed first if you are a couple then go into a quiet room and engage in a communication session without raising your voice. If you think emotions can get the better of you, choose a public place such as a restaurant or pack to actively engage because the surroundings will keep you in check because you will be embarrassed to let your emotions get the better of you. It is also prudent to set up a formal communication protocol. For example, set rules that do not allow one partner to interrupt the other while in the midst of their statement.
Additionally, in cases where the use of words may be inadequate, it is better to try and employ body language to reinforce your communication. Nod when you agree and use gestures to strengthen your communication because the use of such non-verbal means of communication will make your partner understand you better than when you only use verbal means of communication.
Conflict is a common phenomenon in most relations, and occasional conflict is healthy, but persistent conflict can be counterproductive in the workplace or a home. Conflict often leads to flare-ups of temper and sometimes the situations get ugly when relationship partners hull insults or get physical. Since conflict is healthy, you and your partners in the relationship should learn to argue in a civilized manner that is productive.
Arguments are necessary because they sometimes help your partners to see the light or understand your side of the story. Out of an argument, your partner may also be convinced to follow your course or show you a better alternative. Therefore, it is wise to ensure that arguments in any conflict are used for the better of the relationship. If you ever find yourself in a conflict with your partner, it is good for you to note that you are not being victimized. Realize that the outcome of the conflict relies on your choices on whether to react and how to respond. It is prudent, to be honest with yourself.
Firstly, cross-examine your role in the conflict and determine whether you are in the wrong or it is simply a misunderstanding. After that, question yourself and define your goal in the conflict. Do you wish to resolve the conflict, proof a point, or get payback for perceived injustice? Secondly, it is wise to take time and review your arguments and responses before presenting them. It is possible that your responses may be motivated by feelings of anger, and they may not be rational in nature. The reconsideration time may help you deliver the best response instead of a better response! It is noble also to apologize when on the wrong and admit one's wrongdoing instead of trying to justify your actions or words even when you know they were wrong or unwarranted.
Finally, do not wear yourself thin by investing too much energy into a relation by ceding too much ground to make it work. Be realistic and above all learn that you cannot control the behavior of all partners in your relationships or be responsible for all outcomes. In essence, do your part and let the rest of the situation work itself out because relationships are dynamic and many factors are at play at any one time, and you cannot control all of these factors!